Love Dearly

As a couple, no one knows your relationship like you do. As humans, we naturally focus on the bad. Don’t ask me why this is but it’s harder to see the good because we react so harshly to the bad. When you talk to people it’s so easy to vent and we almost always forget to gush about all the good things our partners have to offer, leaving room for so much judgement. When all person hears are bad things, they have bad thoughts of that person. It’s a tough world at their guys, sorry to say. With that being said, we are all aware of the flaws within our marriages. Our fighting can sometimes get so intense that all you want to do is leave the scene of the crime and let’s just face it, admission to wrong doing is not our strong suit. Have we forgotten submission completely (no, I’m not talking women submitting to men, I’m talking couples submitting to each other)? Many of you have heard my rant on this before. We have all become so bull-headed. Blinded by anger we forget how much we love each other all the other days. Husband and I have gotten so good and have been catching ourselves and apologizing, almost immediately. We, of course, have our days but they are more rare. 

This morning, Husband was angry because my phone alarm was going off non-stop while I was showering and he had no clue how to shut it off. He came into the bathroom and through a mini fit about it and went back to bed after I shut it off. I left him a “have a good day” sticky note on the table (like I do almost every morning) and wrote that I was sorry for waking him up. He later texted me, “I was a cranky a**hole this morning…I’m sorry for being a dick.” (excuse his obscene language) He and I have been doing so well with this. 

When you take the time to correct you’re wrong doing, it doesn’t mean you’ll be forgiven right away but it can definitely save you a lot of unnecessary bickering. They say to pick your battles, now, I don’t know who ‘they’ are but ‘they’ are right. There are things worth fighting for and an alarm clock in the early hours isn’t worth it. Find things in your Husband/significant other that you couldn’t live without and compare it to a list of things that drive you crazy. Communication is important and it’s time you all sat down and talked it out, changing together makes everything better and draws you closer. Example:

Honey, we need to find a new way to get through these kinds of moments, it’s just not healthy for us to lash out at one another. 

Using terms of endearment can really lighten a situation, also moving in closer and talking in a soft voice. This will calm an argument and turn it into a discussion. Being adults means that you should be able to talk out your problems and handle your actions together, responsibly. Shower your partner with love, everyday compliment he/she at least once. Making them feel better about themselves can also put them in a happier place and their overall attitude will change. The little things you can do to fix the situation are so simple and yet we constantly forget about them. We are of critical nature and our selfishness gets the best of us more often than not. Discipline yourself to better your relationship with others. 

Marriage is no walk in the park and at times it can seem impossible to get through the day but isn't it worth it?